Sunday, December 26, 2010
Friday, December 24, 2010
Two more kids are down for the count - Mary and Hilary. The only one left standing (figuratively, of course) is Jack. It doesn't appear that Mary and Hilary have been hit as hard as Eric, so that is good. Hopefully they will be feeling better by tomorrow. Fun times at our house this Christmas!
Wishing you all a Merry Christmas filled with the love and laughter of family.
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
The little drummer boy is still sick. This flu has really knocked him down. I was a little worried yesterday about him being dehydrated and envisioned a trip to the ER for IV hydration if things didn't turn around soon. Today, he drank a good amount of Gatorade and seems to be feeling a little better. He should be back to par by the time the man in the red suit makes his appearance. I got a call from Kristi on my way home from work this evening telling me that Jack didn't have such a great afternoon. Here's hoping he isn't heading down the same road as Eric. When I got home, Jack seemed fine, so hopefully whatever Kristi experienced was an isolated event.
Time will tell .....
My shopping is done, my last day of work for the week is tomorrow, and I'm ready to just relax and enjoy a three day weekend. Well, I'm not sure there will be a lot of relaxing going on, but I'm looking forward to it nevertheless.
Thanks for checking in!
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Call us crazy, but we signed Eric up for drum lessons! At his first lesson, he was very intrigued with all the different drums, asked a lot of questions and breezed his way through the first seven pages of drum music. (The year of piano lessons really helped.)
Here is the little drummer boy showing off his sticks after his first lesson ...
Monday, December 13, 2010
The live Christmas tree is up and decorated ....
the family room is decked out with Christmas cheer
Christmas shopping is almost done; kids are in the final days of school before Christmas break and Hilary will be home on Friday.
All is as well as it can be ...
Friday, December 10, 2010
An excerpt from The Pursuit of Perfect by Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D
[T]he four benefits of suffering: wisdom, resilience, compassion, and a deep respect for reality.
Wisdom emerges from the experience of suffering. When things go well we rarely stop to ask questions about our lives and predicament. A difficult situation, however, often forces us out of our mindless state, causing us to reflect on our experiences. To be able to see deeply, to develop what King Solomon referred to as a wise heart, we must brave the eye of the storm.
Nietzsche, a wise man himself, famously remarked that what does not kill us, makes us stronger. Suffering can make us more resilient, better able to endure hardships. Just as a muscle, in order to build up, must endure some pain, so our emotions must endure pain in order to strengthen. Helen Keller, who in her lifetime knew much suffering, as well as joy, noted that "character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved."
Everybody hurts sometimes, and allowing ourselves to feel this universal emotion links us together in a web of compassion. The dictionary defines compassion as a "deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it," but the only way we can gain a deep awareness of the suffering of others is by having suffered ourselves. A theoretical understanding of suffering is as meaningless as a theoretical description of the color blue to a blind person. To know it, we need to experience it.
One of the most significant benefits of suffering is that it breeds a deep respect for reality, for what is. While the experience of joy connects us to the realm of infinite possibilities, the experience of pain reminds us of our limitations. When, despite all our efforts, we get hurt, we are humbled by constraints that we sometimes fail to notice when we are flying high.
A deep respect for reality implies an acceptance of what is - of our potential, our limitation and our humanity. Recognizing that suffering is integral to our lives and that there are other benefits to pain, such as the cultivation of wisdom and compassion, we become more accepting of our suffering. And when we truly accept grief and sorrow as inevitable, we actually suffer less.